Every human relationship is to one degree or another love-hate connection. It makes us look into the mirror of our life as it helps us reconcile the opposing feeling of it.
I have read once a little story that I would like to share it with you:
A woman told a man:
- I love you!
The man answered:
- My heart deserves your love!
The woman said:
- Perchance you do not love me?
And the man looked up to her and kept silent:
Than the woman shouted:
- I hate you!
And the man said:
- In that case, my heart also deserves your hatred.
Isn’t this something picky?
Self-exposure changes both the person who speaks and the person who listen. Is this too much we look for in a relationship? Most of the time in our first dates we always deal with this kind of situations. Behind all the hit and excitement lies the dark side of our fear whether to trust or not trust our new partner, whether IS or IS NOT a spotless situation.
I tell you this my virtual friends:
When I open up before you, be it in a passing confidence or in a long introverted mood, I am literally being myself, before you, and by being myself in your eyes, I myself expressed in my words and in my own eyes too. I know myself better as I struggle to put into words, what so far was only speechless, experience. I gain perspective as I break the monologue of my own memory. I see my failure and my hits as I guess your silent reaction to my truthful unveiling.
So, I change while I speak of myself before you, in trustful empathy. And you too, change when listening to me, as glimpses of another life enlighten your own, by contrast or support, as you see the common striving for human excellence in the different while similar circumstances of a life close to yours.
I hide myself some of the dark corners of my personality and spare myself the ache of facing them, and I come to think honestly that, in spite of weaknesses and shortcoming, which I certainly have and admit, I am free from serious vices or notable failures.
